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Should You Heal Another?

Dawn Thebarge

Written November 28, 2001

Recently I was asked for a spell to help someone deal with, and get help for, alcohol abuse. Once questions had been asked it seemed the person with the request was not asking for herself but for a friend instead. This friend's husband was the one abusing. The wife of the individual wanted a way to make him stop and was willing to try anything to get her husband "back". While I understand her desperation I do not condone manipulating another for any purpose. This is manipulation plain and simple because this man did not ask for help

This brings up another question: Should you heal another? You see the requests all over the boards and lists on the Internet, you hear petitions in circles and by coven members.

Please help! My aunt/uncle/grandparent/parent/neighbor is ill or has been in an accident! It was horrid and they are in need of your healing thoughts/prayers/spells/energies.

My son/daughter/friend/neighbor is abusing drugs/alcohol please send energy to stop them!

I am doing this because I know this is what they would want.

I don't know if they would like this if they knew witches were praying/healing/doing spells for them but I love them so much please do it any how!

My friend/loved one has suffered a terrible loss and needs you to send positive energy to them to help them get over this.

Unless the request comes from the party who is ill, come to harm or abusing I usually won't send energy or healing to people in this type of situation. Yes, I have heard it before-I am horrid, I am judgmental, I am a terrible person. Maybe so. But my reasons are many.

I know I would not want to be manipulated by another and so I would never manipulate anyone in any way. I have no way of knowing if another person wants something that they did not ask or request of me. I also know that the God/dess sometimes has plans or motives that I am not aware of or privy to and I would never think that I was so great as to know them or know what is best.. I also know that going through grief is a healthy thing and sending positive thoughts to someone when they need to or should be grieving can back fire with terrible results.

My question is what if healing or helping is harmful? What if you heal/help someone who does not want healing? Is that ok? Not in my book it isn't. It has a lot to do with free will. That means a person has the right to be ill/unwell if they so choose.

There are those who are here to learn something-actually we all are. Who am I to say the God/dess does not know that the best way for them to gain knowledge is through illness or injury? I truly think that in your lifetime you are here to learn lessons and that you chose those lessons before you even exist. I do not think you chose how you will learn them. That is up to Spirit to decide.

Someone once said I should protect the weak. I say that is not my responsibility. It is theirs to become stronger. Don't get me wrong- I have helped people who needed it and without reservation. Children are another example of those who deserve protection but when it comes to adults there is a time when you have to step back and stop coddling people and there are times people do not need or require help. If they are not asking for help then it is fine to let them struggle. It is actually harder to let them struggle than to help at times. It all comes down to thinking you have the right to manipulate the outcome of another's situation.

So do you really think that is your right?